I can’t stress enough. In the Asian culture, living with your parents does not make one a loser. Most kids never leave their parents until they get married. Some don’t even move out after they get married. Most of my expat friends give me the look every time I say I live with my parents. It’s not like I havent been on my own before. Been there, done that. I still find a lot of joy living with my parents.
1. I don’t have to do any housework
I know it sounds super spoiled, but that’s the truth. When I was in college in the States living on my own. I’d let my dishes pile up till I no longer have any clean ones. Now I always have clean clothes and utensils to use. Loves it.
2. I never need to learn to cook
I think I’m the only person on earth who have survived for so long on her/his own without knowing how to cook. As I always say when it comes to things I don’t know: it’s a matter of not reluctance, not a matter of incompetence! When I was in college I lived in the dorm because I could eat at the cafeteria. I know meal plans suck, but I’d rather eat bad food than to move my lazy ass. I think my energy is better spent elsewhere. Now that I’m back, I just eat what my mom prepares every night. My culinary skills remain minimal. Whenever my mom’s out with friends or too busy to cook, I’d just order take-outs or make microwave food.
3. I get to live with my best friend
I’m the only child and I’m super close to my mom. I show no respect when I talk to her (not like I abuse her or anything). We are totally like buddy-buddy. Sometimes she jokes and says I shouldn’t make fun of her and call her stupid when she doesnt know how to use her phone, but many of her friends told her they’d rather have children like me who would open up to them. I keep very few secrets from my mom, and I love it when my mom knows when I need her advice and when I don’t. She knows me so well and understands I’m a very stubborn person and when I do believe in what I think is right, no one can shake me, but if I’m struggling with a decision and need my mom’s opinion, I’d value it highly. I also know that she is very proud of me and would let me do I want even if that’s not what she exactly wants.
4. I don’t have to take care of bills
Keeping track of bills sucks. I give my mom a portion of my income every month (a super standard practice in a Chinese household). She takes care of all the utility bills including cable, phone, electricity, etc. I have a tough time keep track of my credit card bills already. (I have like 10 credit cards). Not having to worry about missing a payment and risking to have my internet cut off is definitely a plus.
5. I don’t have to do grocery shopping
Except for skincare and cosmetics, my mom always makes sure we have supplies at home like shampoo and toilet papers. I still remember the time when I had to keep a list of things I needed to get on my next Walmart visit.
By the time you finish reading my list, you probably would say, “You are treating your mom like a maid!” I hear that a lot LOL. I’m just giving an honest account. I never claim to be the best daughter ever, but I do feel very grateful for everything she has done. I told my mom many times: I don’t think I could ever love someone as much as she loves me. 🙂