Toying and game playing

Recently a male friend of mine has gotten into a romantic dilemma. The girl he is pursuing rejected him but continues those late night talks and acts all jealous when he is with other girls. To me, what she does is the ldefinitely of uncool. Only girls who are insecure about herself would play hard to get. Once you scheme someone into a relationship, you have to keep playing games until the relationship runs out of its course.

When I was younger I was more into manipulating guys into liking me. The “accidental” stroke of the arms and half-hearted laughs at his jokes were the essence, not to forget flirty texts that had to be shorter than the guys’ so I wouldn’t look too desperate.

I’m quite shy when it comes to relationships. I’m not asking a girl to go up to her crush and declare her love to him cuz I honestly can’t do it. What I mean is if you are truly interested in a guy who likes you, kindly accepts this wonderful chemistry. If you have any reservations, let him know. If you don’t think there are any sparks, just walk away and stay “real friend”. Stop all the flirting. You can buy your own meal.

From my personal experience, a guy’s interest level for a woman goes downhill very fast if you only get him to fall for you by playing games. It cannot sustain unless he falls for you for who you are. Of course you can always refuse to take down that facade, to continue to laugh at jokes you don’t find funny or to count the words for every text you are to send him for the rest of your life, but in my humble opinion that’s way too much work.

I’m no relationship expert, but if you ask me how to get a guy to like you, I’d say just be the best person you can be, get a life, let him see the real you. Of course girls are gonna say, “What if he doesn’t like the real me?”

Then he is not even worth your time.

I don’t think we should have to “get” a person to like us. Perhaps I’m a bit of a cynic. If you are super awesome already and he doesn’t like you enough to want to get to know you, that’s his loss. Don’t pine for a person you don’t even have a relationship with.

As for gamers or cheaters or any jerks who have purposely hurt or toyed with someone’s feeling, good luck cuz karma is b—h.


About Nicky

Nicky English is a journalist, an educator, a podcaster, a couch potato, a dreamer, and a child at heart. Learning is her passion, so is the English language, which she believes is the tool to unlock the door of knowledge. Born in Hong Kong, she received intensive writing training at The University of Iowa, where she double-majored in journalism and political science. Apart from the Hawkeye State, she’s lived in Chicago and Philadelphia. When she was a guest student at Georgetown University, she fell in love with Washington, D.C. She also has a Master of Arts in Communication. A little side note—she cannot imagine a world without her Mac and iDevices. Like many crazy ones, she hopes to change the world one day at a time.
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2 Responses to Toying and game playing

  1. egointhesea says:

    Definitely agree! The best relationships come from natural attraction without any particular “tactics”; they just happen. If they don’t work out, it just wasn’t meant to be.

  2. halfabc says:

    none of the great love stories we know start with playing hard to get 🙂

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