Can you forgive?

Someone I was once very close to reached out to me for a favor recently. It was not a big deal. That person only needed my insight before making a life decision.

I gave my honest opinion on that matter, but I was wary of going beyond that because this person did something cruel to me and took pleasure in watching me like I was a laughing stock. All the while no apology was ever made. I wouldn’t have given a damn if it someone else, but we were the best of friends.

Years have passed. I never got the apology. Although the pain inflicted no longer bothers me, I couldn’t un-disappoint myself. I saw what this person truly was and what our friendship meant. Even though I could be civil, I could chat, I could never trust someone who knew exactly what my weakness was and deliberately hurt me with that.

Good people may say the wrong thing or offend someone due to stupidity, but they don’t go around destroying others for amusement.


About Nicky

Nicky English is a journalist, an educator, a podcaster, a couch potato, a dreamer, and a child at heart. Learning is her passion, so is the English language, which she believes is the tool to unlock the door of knowledge. Born in Hong Kong, she received intensive writing training at The University of Iowa, where she double-majored in journalism and political science. Apart from the Hawkeye State, she’s lived in Chicago and Philadelphia. When she was a guest student at Georgetown University, she fell in love with Washington, D.C. She also has a Master of Arts in Communication. A little side note—she cannot imagine a world without her Mac and iDevices. Like many crazy ones, she hopes to change the world one day at a time.
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