I was hurt by someone who i thought was my best friend twice in two weeks. The first time he did that I was upset, but I valued our friendship enough to not hold any grudge against him because I knew soon enough he would need my friendship again.
I follow this principle in life. People make mistakes. If they do it once, it’s an accident. If they do it twice, it’s a habit.
I forgave my friend when he apologized, but then he hurt me again, but I’m not even going to call him out on that. I’m an adult who can handle shitty situations, but I also have enough self/respect to cut this person off from my life completely. Someone who thinks I’m disposable doesn’t deserve to have in his/her life.
My self-love doesn’t only apply in relationship. I’ll not tolerate being mistreated and disrespected by anyone. I always remember Ronald Reagan’s “Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.” I will not let there be a third time. My love is conditional.